Drinking

So...I'm at a crossroads this morning. I find myself thinking seriously about how the person in my life right now goes out every weekend to drink with friends. And DRINK. I'm not much of a drinker myself. Yes, I've been known to get downright drunk about twice a year, but that's about it. If invited to the right dinner party, I can definitely enjoy enough glasses of good wine to get buzzed and happy - but not blind drunk. It takes about 2-3 glasses of wine and I'm all good for the evening.

Kenyans love to drink. And a lot of the expats who live here love to drink. And because I don't, I'm a bit nowhere socially. I don't enjoy most bars or clubs. I can't stand the big clubs here because the music is too damned loud to talk and the prostitutes fill the space. So where do you go when you're NOT a big drinker? Quite frankly, it's just boring to have me around I think. Everyone else is enjoying themselves and I'm essentially sober and bored. BORED. So what to do? And even more challenging how do you find someone to date and enjoy life with when the majority think that drinks all night every Friday and Saturday are the high point of the week?

I'm also not real big on sleeping late. I CAN. But only on rare occasions. It's not in my system to sleep until 12PM or 1PM or even 2PM every weekend. I'm awake by 9AM most of the time and it seems like just a waste of daylight and LIFE to lay in bed all day nursing a hang over or just flopping around when you could be walking, hiking, seeing a movie, etc. I never thought of myself as an "energy" person. I have high energy friends and I don't even compare. But I guess I'm in the lower third of that category. I never realized it until I moved here. My Mom and Dad are energy people. My Mom is up and buzzing every weekend...working in her garden...working on the house...MOVING. My big brother is an energy person, too. He's up early and busy with chores long before the rest of the house and neighborhood have come alive.

So what to do? I don't know. I don't know how to find balance with the majority who love bars and I've no idea how to find anyone in the minority that would rather have a grand meal and then head home to watch a movie. Once again, I'm in the middle in Kenya and, as always, it's a fairly frustrating and lonely place to be.